Rules.

My boyfriend and I have come up with a set of rules for me and they are listed below. I came up with #'s 2 and 3 and he was insistent on #1 as it does hold me back and lowers my confidence. So far, I've been good (aside from one negative statement, thank goodness for verbal warnings!) and managed to do everything well this week. I think this is very fair and could help me a lot.

Rules:

*Week starts of Monday and ends on Sunday.

1.) No negative statements. Only to be punished if continued past a verbal warning.
2.) Exercise: 3 times a week minimum. Walking 30 minutes a day minimum. Weather permitting.
3.) At least 3 blogs a week regarding what's been going through my mind. Not all to be done on the same day.

*Punishments are to be done on Monday nights or Tuesday mornings. Rules to be examined on Wednesdays.

I must admit that it makes me a bit nervous as I've never been truly punished by him but hopefully I won't ever need to be. This provides me great motivation, not just the fear of consequences but him being there for me also gives me a sense of security. He only wants to help me with what I agree that I need help with...things that are holding me back...things that I've wanted to work on for a long time. The blog rule is simply because I have anxiety and it's a means to get some of those things off of my chest, plus writing (most topics) has always helped to calm me.

Something that has been causing anxiety, of course, is the fear of punishment. I know that he does not ever wish to punish me but that he will if need be. I also know that he will push me past my limit and it wouldn't be pleasurable at all.

I have heard a lot of people say that spankos can't ever be truly punished using a spanking but I think that I disagree. What are your thoughts on this? Do you think punishment spankings work or do you think that it needs to be done in other ways? If so, what ways?

Thanks for reading,
*Kimmie*